Friday, May 21, 2010

Queen Mary cruise?

I am going on a cruise on the Queen Mary with my Uncle and Aunt in May and I am told that the evenings are quiet formal. Its a 14 day cruise and apparently there are 4 formal nights whilst we are on board.





I am new to cruising as are my Uncle and Aunt. What should I wear on the formal nights and what do you wear on the other less formal nights.


Sam 17 UK

Queen Mary cruise?
For each of the formal nights a dinner suit for men although if you study the booking paper work it says a lounge suit is acceptable. For the ladies it is a night to dress up and dazzle. On other nights smart dress is required, I like a blazer and slacks, for the ladies trousers or dress are acceptable, dress up for first non gala nights and see how others are dressed. No shorts are allowed at any time in dining rooms. No bare arms for men. If I did not have dinner suit I would feel uncomfortable, so if your Uncle hasn't got one suggest he rents one. On my last cruise suits were available to hire. This could be checked out with cruise line. If you are leaving and returning by boat then luggage size is not important but if like me on my next cruise 24 April, we are flying out to Jamaica luggage is limited. Check on itinerary for fancy dress nights. Don't have to dress but they can be fun. Have a wonderful holiday.
Reply:On the formal nights most men wear dinner suits ie tux with bow tie etc (Jackets can be black or white). The women get glammed up with posh dresses. After the main formal night it will be accepted for men to wear a lounge suit with tie. Women continue to wear posh dresses.
Reply:Havn,t been on the Q.M. But the QE11 has a non formal restaurant called the Lido and you can choose to eat there everynight if you want to. You can also use room service and dine in your stateroom on the formal nights.


But the dressing up is great fun, you can hire formal wear to take with you or on board, but try to check costs on board before you go if money is a problem, but if you are going to do it again, consider buying, although at your age, it might be worth waiting.


Might be worth trawling the local charity shops, ask your aunt about this, I found an expensive dress shirt for £2.00 as new.


Good night out in leeds?

lookin for a good night out where i can pick up some fit blokes in leeds ? already been in queens court and speedqueen at the wharehouse ages ago. i pulled in there but didnt take anyone home!!! had some fun though !!

Good night out in leeds?
Get down to Mission and then to Stinky's Peephouse. Did you go in Fibre (next to QC?) Bit twatty in there but if you're into that kind of thing...





If all else fails, The New Penny have a good gay disco. Drinks are cheap, music's naff, no talent (unless you like the misfits of a gay society) but you'll be sure to have a good laugh.





Have fun x
Reply:hope and anchore
Reply:Dude...you can find fit blokes in a gym. Thanks for sharing.


How should i keep my room clean???

i am 15 and a freshman and my room isn't very big. i wanna kleen it for school. i have a queen sized bed and a desk and a dresser and i night stand how can i fit all my stuff in it i also have a small closet???? help how do i organize it?

How should i keep my room clean???
Storage bins! (under the bed and in the closet)


Throw anything away that your not going to use this month!


You don't have the luxury to be a clutter bug :)


Good Luck in school!
Reply:Go buy cheap plastic drawers from target for whatever storage you need. Have a desk, plain flat top for your computer is good ($99), as long as it's spacious to do your homework. Get the filling bins from staples, and fill them up with vanilla folders. Just make sure you have the right dressor and drawers, and a table for homeowork, filling bin, a computer, and some sort of entertainment. School equipments... That's all you need for school. Don't forget little notebooks for your agenda, list them down, and check them off, this will mak eyou time efficient and organized in your daily activities.
Reply:you could build shelves
Reply:Maybe change your bed size to twin with pull out trundle for guests too. Also try building shelves in closet for more storage. You might try putting only clothes out for the season and put the others in plastic bins or those air tight bags under the bed.
Reply:i lived in a cage with three other soldiers for a year...something that always helped(because we had to) was to make our beds everyday...somehow in a small room this always seems to motivate cleaning the rest of it and keeping it clean...put away the stuff that you don't use as often, and keep handy what you need on a regular basis...also, definitely put away things as soon as you are done with them...good luck...
Reply:well, clean up your mess every time you make one, take at least 5-10 minutes a day to straighten up your room that way it wont get messy and if it does, it wont take long to clean up. have you thought of going through your things and seeing if you dont use things anymore....ive got a small room too and i live in it with my boyfriend...2 peoples stuff and two people living in it can get pretty messy...all you have to do is take some time and go through everything, things you want, dont want, want to throw away should all be considered, and u can get some storage bins cheep so things dont look so unorganized
Reply:Get rid of any junk or stuff that you will never use again. Make room for the stuff you do need. Get a closet organizer shelf if it will fit or use it for a shelf in your room. The smaller the room the faster it will get messy, as u already know so make a commitment every day to pick your clothes up and put them away. Also, if you make the bed it will instantly make your room look cleaner. Get those bins that you can slide under the bed.


You may want to consider getting a smaller bed to make more room but I know that is a sacrifice.
Reply:organize stuff and get storage bins so you dont create too much clutter.
Reply:call in a maid
Reply:um....by cleaning it.
Reply:hire a cleaning lady


Which book out of the following should I read next?

I am just finishing up "The Heart is a Lonely Hunter" and have the choice of:





1.) My Antonia- Willa Cather


2.) A Passage to India, A Room With a View, Howard's End- E.M. Forster


3.) Moby Dick


4.) Tender is the Night- F.Scott


5.) The Gift, Glory, King, Queen, Knave, Look at the Harlequins!-Nabokov


6.) 100 Years of Solitude


7.) Catch-22





All of them interest me more or less, and I'll get to them eventually; I'm just looking for someone who has read any of them to make a case for the next one.

Which book out of the following should I read next?
Well, read them all, but:





1) _Catch-22_


It's amazing how few people read this book nowadays. Not only is it incredibly funny, but it covers issues that we're seeing a lot of in the US nowadays. A very fast read.





2) _100 Years of Solitude_


This is NOT a quick read, nor an easy one, but it can have a monumental impact on how you see the world. This is one of the books I always carried around with me in high school.





3) Nabokov


If you're new to Nabokov, those books are not where to start. _Ada_ is my favorite of his, although _Lolita_ and _Bend Sinister_ are more accessible. _Speak, Memory_ is also magnificent. If you're NOT new to Nabokov, you know as well as I!





4) _Moby Dick_


Read it and you'll understand references by just about every modern author. It's a terribly fun story, too.
Reply:100 Years of Solitude. It's absolutely great!
Reply:Catch-22. You'll love it
Reply:Tender Is the Night. F. Scott Fitzgerald is genius!
Reply:i'd start with my antonia. it's a quick read and a very good story. it's the first book i read in college and the book that made me love reading.


tender is the night is not my favorite fitgerald book. it's a little slow and very depressing. it's basically about his wife zelda.


moby dick is the most boring book i ever read in my life. i made it half way through before i gave up.


catch-22 is an excellent book. very poignant and one of the few books that was critical of wwII.


you've compiled a great list. happy reading!
Reply:100 Years of Solitude is an amazing book. So is Catch-22.
Reply:Moby Dick is wildly boring - do yourself a favor and watch the movie.





My vote is with 100 Years of Solitude - amazing, amazing. It will make your heart grow two sizes.
Reply:I've only read _Catch-22_, but it was excellent. Very twisty!
Reply:When We Were Soldiers, good book
Reply:Catch-22
Reply:Moby Dick or Catch-22
Reply:Read anything Nabokov, especially Pale Fire (though I know it's not on your list). It's brilliant, and it will give you something to chew on for a while.
Reply:" howl" by ginsberg
Reply:Catch 22
Reply:My Antonia and Howard's end are good choices if you like reading about lasting love--in My Antonia the boy loves this girl and always seem to come around her when hes needed but although she cares deeply its not enough for love. Its enjoyable for it gives the strengths and the weakness of the human spirit.


Howard's End- about a very socially correct butler who is all it means to be a gentleman and Always does the socially correct thing. Then a new housekeeper is hired and he slowly falls in love but because he has so long been the proper gentleman hesitates too long when opportunities are give for the Housekeeper falls in love with him also. Both novels take place in a ages where being in love isn't enough for there are all kinds of social rules and constraint is the rule of the day. The writing in both is excellent for it takes us into the stories and we experience the lives of the characters. Happy reading
Reply:Catch-22 or Tender Is The Night-both are great!!
Reply:I loved "Moby Dick" by Herman Melville. I liked it so much I named both of my fish after it: Herman and Moby! Go for that one. And the movie with the kid from "ET" and the guy from "Star Trek" isn't too bad either.
Reply:my antonia, we had this book on our literature class last year it is one of the best novel ever, the narator of the novel is a boy who has a childhood friend, i think they didn't end up together but the boy's love is still the same!!!
Reply:I absolutely loved A Room With A View and Howard's End by E.M. Forster. One of the best books I've ever been assigned to read and actually loved.





I have never cared for Willa Cather. I've read O Pioneers and hated it--absolutely hated it--and I am relatively sure I read My Antonia for another class...and while I didn't hate it, I didn't like it either. And I've read a short story by her too, can't recall the name. But that's just me.
Reply:Moby Dick- because it's a classic and it's about one angry whale!!!!!! How cool is that?
Reply:Well i wouldnt pick any but i luv the book tuck everlasting by natalie babbit..........................u could buy it cheap on ebay........

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David Icke, did you see the programme last night?

What do you think of him and his beliefs? I read a few of his books years ago, and do believe some of his theories. Saw the programme last night and don´t think he´s changed his views, good luck to him. He´s been ridiculed over the years but has come out the other side. Reptilians, not sure about that one! Except to say the Queen does looks decidely reptilian at times :)


Illuminati, yes I do think they exist without a doubt as someone or something has to keep control of the masses or else governments will lose all power, and power is key to running the world.


Nothing to do with David, but often thought why do they have one lottery winner winning say 19 million, instead of 19 people winning 1 million each........answer .......then there would be more and more people with big money and people with big money are dangerous, you simply can´t control them. Keeping the majority on the breadline keeps the majority under control.


Long live David Icke, and people like him.

David Icke, did you see the programme last night?
I have a lot of respect for David Ickes ideas, apart from the reptilian thing. I suppose that is understandable though if you are thinking outside the box so much you are bound to make a few mistakes. Some of the ideas about the Illuminati are a bit far fetched but there are definitely people pulling strings in governments. I dont think anybody actually believes that George Bush is controlling America...i doubt he actually makes any decisions.
Reply:Rosypooz...how dare you mention the Queen in such terms! Didn't watch the Icke prog., but concerning the society in the UK...divide and rule does the job big stylee. The thing with Mr. Icke - his observations and beliefs fly over many heads, hence peoples contempt - why doesn't he talk about the social set-up of certain EastEnders episodes (ahem)?! Long live Icke indeed...but the more dumbing-down we experience, the less people like he will be understood.
Reply:lottery - statistical probability





david icke - nutter





illumitnai theory - flawed and moronic





shape shifting reptilians - just plain moronic
Reply:He was mentally ill in the days when he first got booted off of the media, and he hasn't got any better.
Reply:It is fine to keep an open mind, but not so open your brains fall out!
Reply:Icky.
Reply:He is nuts


I've been writing some rap lyrics as Todd suggested to me long ago and I like it. This is just some old stuff

darkness





The scars that you know that I carry,


You know that they run so deep.


As deep as an abyss in the ocean


An ocean of deeply rooted hate.





Trust is a sin, that will rip you in two,


Time is a thing I don't think much about.


Love is the one thing I can't live without.


Your touch is the one thing I know is true.





If I am to suffer all the agony and pain of hell,


I'll have no one to blame, no one but myself.


The only person who really knows who I am,


Everything I thought was right, turned out wrong.





In the evening by the moon's dying light,


The time has come, for your will to be done.


No longer do I care what anyone else may say,


My heart and soul have turned to icy cold stone.





The darkness of complete and total damnation,


You hold my frozen hands in yours.


You will appear whenever the full moon shines,


My virgin queen of the never ending night.

I've been writing some rap lyrics as Todd suggested to me long ago and I like it. This is just some old stuff
well i don't know about rap lyrics, but it sent shivers up my spine, especially the last line...





by the way if anyone ever dogs you because your stuff is so dark, don't pay any attention- poetry is all about feelings coming through with words and trust me ,yours speak loudly and clearly of the pain you have suffered- pain that i can share and be made more whole by reading..





thanks





peace love embracing the darkness
Reply:Wow this is a great poem / lyrics and it;s awesome and would be terrific to some kind of beat...Nice work Shelly
Reply:I really really like it :)
Reply:I think your first two stanzas especially have a really nice rhythm to them. I've always thought rap would a good play for you--I still think that.
Reply:My mouth is touching the floor, OMG!!!!!!!! Is dark, really dark. Proud of you, baby. Best poem ever written.





I love you


Your angel forever
Reply:It was a good suggestion! Your rhyme and meter really work and create a great rhythm in this work. You have strong images in stanza 4 %26amp; 5: develop those! Thanks for sharing!


I have some questions about the midsummers night dream?

1. When Hermia's father opposes her choice of husbands, Duke Theseus tells her not to go against her father saying "To you your father should be as a god." Is Theseus right?





2. The play ends with a triple wedding. Do you beleive that those getting married will stay married?





3. Write an informative essay focusing on what a typical wedding was like in Shakespeare's day.





4. Puck's magic spells cause several characters to fall in love with the wrong persons. Are there "magic spells" in real like that affect people this way?





5. Hippolyta, bethrothed to Theseus, is the queen of the Amazons, who play prominent roles in various stories in Greek mythology. Who were the Amazons.





6. German composer Felix Mendelssohn wrote music based on the themes in A Midsummer Night's Dream. One of these compostitions inspired by Shakespeare's play accomponies a ceremony performed thousand of times by churches throughout the world every year. What is the ceremony? What is the compostion?

I have some questions about the midsummers night dream?
Is this your homework? If it is, I cannot help you. I would like to, but I can't. Because technically, that's called copyrighting. Even if I gave you permission to use my work, it would still be copywriting and therefore you cannot use it. I'm terribly sorry, I would like to help, but I can't.


Getting rid of wasps?

Probably a very common problem, but the problem is, I am terrified of them. It started out with a few, but now, every time I go out, they seem to be everywhere (at least I think so!) How do I get rid of them - I think I know where the nest is (a very awkward place to get at). I picked up some Raid Wasp %26amp; Hornet Killer today, but I've been told to be soooo careful, that they will swarm and not to spray until night when they are in their nest with the queen. Am I safe doing this????? They are the biggest wasps I have ever seen (long, with dangly legs) and even seem to go after the dog, trying to burrow into her fur. Someone even told me to use vinegar, although I don't know how I would do that - Maybe an exterminator is my only option - What do you think? Any suggestions would be appreciated before I send my husband out there to face what could be an ugly encounter????? Thanks so much for any help before the ugly little creatures spoil my summer.

Getting rid of wasps?
Nest removal or getting rid of wasps, particularly social wasps, is a fairly simple process. Finding the nest usually entails a quick survey for heavy wasp traffic during dusk or dawn, when wasps tend to return to the nest. Once the sun is down for the evening and you’ve noticed less traffic near the nest, dress yourself with multiple layers of clothing, and find a pair of gloves, just in case. Then, go out to the nest and spray the entrance with any wasp killing agent, like Raid for example. Spray liberally, but avoid inhaling too much of the poison. Most wasp poisons kill on contact, but it’s best to be safe by slowly leaving the area, sudden movements can attract attention.





Which wasp killer you use depends on where the nest is.





For nests that are located underground, you will want to use a wasp killer that is not labeled as a projectile spray. You want very little spray for yellow jacket nests that are found underground.





For nests that are elevated, you will want to find a can of wasp %26amp; hornet killer that is labeled as a projectile spray. This will ensure a stream of wasp poison roughly 15-20 feet in length. Plenty of distance to make a quick escape if necessary.





Repeating this process twice or even three times may be necessary until you’re certain the nest has been vacated. Once you see that there is no traffic, it’s probably safe to knock down the nest if it’s an aerial nest, or fill the nest with dirt and gravel if it’s in the ground. This should be the end of your wasp problem until the next migration cycle.
Reply:smash them with a newspaper or a shoe. WORKS EVERYTIME
Reply:http://www.wasps.com
Reply:If it is an area thats enclosed or covered like a porch hang a toilet deoderizer they hate the smell and will leave the area alone

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7 Month Old not sleeping through the night??

My son is 7 months old, he does not sleep for more than 2-3 hours at a time. I start out with a bath at 7 or 7:30. Then I lotion him, and put his clothes on. I nurse him, and he eventually falls asleep at about 8:30 or 9. He will only fall asleep while he is nursing, he will not fall asleep on his own. I put him in his crib and then about 2 hours later he wakes up. I bring him back to my bed and nurse him and he falls asleep right away. He will again sleep for 2 hours and wake up. Since I breast feed him, I can just roll over and nurse him. I have a pretty tall queen sized bed. I have a small room, and his crib is right next to the bottom of my bed. I am a very light sleeper, so rolling on him was not a concern for me. This morning at about 4:30, I woke up and he was at the end of my bed he had crawled to the end of my bed. I grabbed him quickly. One inch to the left and he would have fallen off of my bed! I need to figure out how to get him in his own bed all night,

7 Month Old not sleeping through the night??
I had the same problem with my 9 month old son 19 years ago. My problem was I always gave him a bottle when he woke up big no no. I was told by my Dr. to stop that he didn't need it.I picked him up changed him if he needed it and he would just lay in my arms looking at me until he got sleepy again.It took about a week or two but after that he started sleeping all night.
Reply:Bottlefeeding is very different than nursing. This is not the best answer! Report It

Reply:I agree it is different but it is the same too they don't need to be fed at night with either the bottle or breastfeeding.So that is why I gave that answer. Report It

Reply:I definitely recommend that you either adjust the length of the crib so he does not crawl out again or exchange the crib you own for a crib the extends more upward.





Also, your infant needs to have on of those rings with stuffed animals and lights hanging from from the top of his crip. It usually is set by you to mandate wheter you want the ring twirling, spinning, moving slowly, and light and sound on. This usually occupies the baby and make them laugh and eventually sleeply.





He also is "conditioned" to sleepling only a few hours because he knows he will get milk immediately from you and he is hungry. He needs to grow slowly detached from your breast and onto a bottle so he does not expect consistant, random feedings in the middle of the night.





Lastly, before you and the baby go to bed, do a "baby message" in which you rub on his back lightly with a little bit of soothing baby oil. You do this and they will be more relaxed, happy, and less like likely to cry thoughout the day as well as more likely to sleep better. Trust me, I saw this tactic on the news.





I hope this helps and God Bless! :)
Reply:First off you need to get him out of your room. I have two children and with the first one I did pretty much what your doing now with the same results. By the second one I really learned my lesson.


As hard as this sounds ,you need to try and let him fall asleep on his own. When you are ready for him to go to bed. Do your normal routine,but this time lay him in the crib while he is awake. Warning he isn't going to like this at first so he is going to cry. The best thing you can do is go somewhere were you can't hear him so intensely and then time him for 10 minutes. If he is still crying comfort him,but don't pick him up. Continue to do this 10 minute process until he falls asleep. I know it may seem mean,but I realized afterwards how much better we both slept. I promise if you do this for about 3 days constantly you will watch and be amazed how fast he goes to sleep. After awhile hell get were he doesn't cry at all.
Reply:I slept with all 4 of my kids at some point during their lives; make it safe and you can both get some sleep.
Reply:Oh my God ! Sleeping habbit is nothing uncommon abt ur son. Abt his crawling..u must be careful. U an buy a car bed..which is protected on all sides..
Reply:It is so hard. My son at 9 month still doesn't sleep through the night. We have a very similar situation. Not all babies are sleepers. As far as your bed and the babe, why not invest in a guard rail. He'll may need it later when he's in a big bed.
Reply:I had a hard problem with my son sleeping through the night too. He actually didn't start sleeping through the night until he was 1. Every child is different though. Does he use a binky? That could help, if he doesn't already use a binky though you might not want to try it, sometimes that is a hard habit to break. Anyways be careful of him in your bed, my son did fall off the bed. Thank god it was so close to the ground he didn't get hurt. Now that he is mobile it is dangerous. If it is necessary for him to be in your bed try though bed railings so he can't fall off!
Reply:Try solid food before he goes to bed. It sounds like he may still be hungry if he's waking up to eat every 2 to 3 hours. Good Luck!
Reply:My advice is to totally ignore your responses that you should give formula! I cannot belive someone would tell you that!!!! Nursing and co-sleeping is the best thing you can do for your baby! If you have to adjust and put your mattress on the floor, then so be it.


My baby is also 7 mo and was doing the same thing up until this week actually. Just give it time and he will sleep! This is such a short and precious time you have with your baby. Cherish it because he'll be growing up WAY to fast.
Reply:Well up until about a week ago I had the same problem as you do with my 8 month old. I was SOOO against the Ferber (cry it out) Method but since I was about to lose my mind I decided to try it. If you actually check it out it's not as cruel as it sounds, you don't just put him in his crib and walk away. Anyway, by the 3rd night he was only waking up once for about 5 minutes and going back until about 8:00. It was really hard to listen to him cry but it was well worth it, I'd like to kick myself for not doing it sooner.


You and your baby need a good nights sleep. He may cry at first but in the long run it's better for you AND him. My son is so much more pleasant during the day, he seems so much happier and so do I.
Reply:Just be consistant! I know its harsh but let him cry it out if need be!


I have an 18mo old and we went through the same. And sometimes still do! There will be good weeks and bad, is he teething?? Try Hylands Teething tables an hr before bed.
Reply:He's stuck on the boob. Try to bottle feed him your breastmilk. Sounds like you're nursing him alot. Try a paci. Honey I know it's hard, but sometimes you just might have to let him cry. He's a mommy hog, and I understand why, he love love loves his mommy. Try to bottle feed and try letting him sleep in his own bed. Don't do both at once, I would try the bottlle approach. No more sleeping in bed with mommy. I know it sucks as much for you as it does for him. If he stays all night in his bed now, it will help in the long run. You don't want him still sleeping with you when he's 2 or 3 or up do you? For a few nights he might just have to cry. I know it's hard but don't you go to the crib. Let him cry if he has to. after 15 or 20 minutes then get him. Good Luck
Reply:If you do not set boundries now you will end up with a child running your house. There is no need for a 7 month old to be fed during the night. Mine all lept through the night , in their own rooms, by 3 1/2 months old thanks to very good advice from my pediatrician.


Bedtime: Put the baby to sleep in HIS OWN bed. Let him cry to start with for 15 minutes hten go in and reassure him that you are there and tuck him back in. DO NOT feed or cuddle him. After tucking him back in leave him for 30 minutes. If he is still crying check on him and tuck him back in and leave for another 30 minutes. Repeat this until he goes to sleep. This will not be easy for you but it is what is best for the child. You may have to do this for 1 night or a week but it will work and he will thereafter go to sleep on his own. It took 2 nights with one of mine and a week with another but they are now 6 and 7 and have slept through the night since 3 months old.





Waking during the night: There is absolutely NO need for a 7 month old to be fed during the night. When the baby wakes instead of breastfeeding or giving him a botle of milk give him a bottle with water to start with. Then after no more than a week of only giving him water when he wakes start to only give him water once during the night. When he wakes simply give him a cuddle and put him back to bed. Yes he will scream and yes it will not be easy but just think in a matter of weeks he will go to bed on his own and sleep through the night. It is what is best for the baby and you.





Good Luck!
Reply:We just recently went through this faze with my currently 9-month-old. I hate to say it, but it lasted a month and a half.





You have to do what you have to do to make it through.





People told us to let him cry it out - we tried that and he ended up vomiting he was so upset. So, we fed him and put him back to bed.





One day, he just started sleeping through the night again and he has every single night since them.





Have you considered having him sleep on the floor? My son's a crawler and a crib wouldn't work for him because he crawls around as he sleeps. We put a blanket down on the floor, remove anything that he could get in to, and let him sleep there. He does SO much better!
Reply:Hi


My daughter is almost 7 months. She will fuss until I nurse her before she falls asleep but this occurance is not every day. Your baby should not be eating 2-3 hours at this stage. He needs more solids. He is using you as a pacifier. Try to wean him from this habit. It will be hard. Teething will cause them to wake up at night as well. Give him a teething ring and make sure you feed him more than just breast milk before he goes to bed. A baby will natuarally wake up for about 10 minutes. After that is you leave them alone they will eventually fall asleep if all their needs are meet.
Reply:Keep baby giving more moments like crabbing, action his legs and hands more. Take him to park or garden and put him to play and crab to come to you. keep on watching. Make him to do more activities by own. Atlast finally he will get tied and he will sleep well. Best of Luck,
Reply:Your not going to want to hear this, but I think you are the reason he is not sleeping all night. You have created a pattern and he has learned how ti manipulate you quite well. Several mistakes that you have made:





1. He is still in your room


2. You nurse him to sleep


3. You put him in bed with you when he wakes up and nurse him again!





Now, I am not saying your a bad mommy. We all have done these types of things. I certainly have done my fair share. But, after 4 children I have learned from my mistakes. It took getting to number four for me to learn!! What does that say about me???? Here is what you need to do to fix this problem.





1. Move him out of your room if you can. If not, at least move him as far away from your bed as possible and put up a privacy screen so that when he wakes up he can't see you.


2. DO NOT NURSE HIM TO SLEEP!! Nurse him until he is drowsy, then place him in his bed. You will have to let him cry it out. Check on him every 5 mins or so. Do not pick him up, just talk to him and if you need to, rub his back a little. THEN LEAVE.


3. When he wakes in the night have your partner tend to him. If you don't your baby will be able to smell your milk and cry for this reason alone. If you are a single mommy, wait a couple of minutes, check on him from the door. And again, let him cry it out.





This pattern may take a week or so to break, but it will work if you stick to it. If you cave in sometimes, that's okay, just try again. The biggest thing you need to do is get him in his own bed and out of your room. This alone may work miracles. The cry it out thing is hard, but it works. You need to sleep and so does your baby. He needs to put himself to sleep. If not, you will have sleep problems for years to come.
Reply:That's hard. Sorry for you. He is use to falling asleep nursing you. Once he starts falling asleep wake him then put him in his crib slightly awake. If he cries let him foe a few minutes go in and tell him quietly your there. Leave. Keep doing this. Babies need to learn to fall asleep by themselves. Try a security item such as small blanket, small stuffed animal, maybe crib toy that attaches to cribs (like plays soothing music).


Your baby does not need to be fed anymore through the night. The transition for him will be slow, may take about month. Talk to the Doctor.Good luck.
Reply:Sometime you just have to let the fuss....he will never learn to fall asleep on his own if you don't give him a chance...you might give him some solid food before bed, like a single grain rice ceral...this will stay in his stomach longer and might help him sleep....but other than that, let him fuss, he will learn to fall asleep on his own.....
Reply:it sounds like he is falling asleep at the breast and isn't getting enough to eat -- you need to find a way to keep him awake, so that he eats more and then he needs to learn to fall asleep on his own in his own bed, it will be hard at first but it will be better for both of you. You could try bottle feeding and adding some cereal in it to fill him up more. Hope this helps!!
Reply:Only one thing, dont let him sleep somuch during the day, as hard as it seems dont let him, or start changing his sleeping rythm,
Reply:We just put our mattress on the floor when my son started crawling, and continued to co-sleep. Waking during the night is entirely developmentally appropriate even through the second year, although the number of times will change as they grow and develop. It's particularly common for night wakings to increase when the child is working on more developmental milestones or teething--they really need you during the night then!





Once my son learned how to get off the bed correctly (feet first), we were able to put the box spring back under the mattress, and we'll soon be adding the frame back.
Reply:when he is asleep put him in bed try and cut out the night feed give him a dummy and don't pick him up ,just rub his head and soothe him, if he crys pick him up and then put him back into the cot,i have my baby's cot alongside the bed and he can see me might be Worth a try to move it
Reply:Its totally normal. My son sounds exactly like yours. I seriously thought he would never sleep longer than 3 hours at a time.





But, there is hope! He just started sleeping 4 hours... so he's only waking twice a night now (for the most part).





So, My answer is patience... he will eventually sleep through the night, he's just not ready yet.





Ive never had my son try and crawl off the bed in the middle of the night, but he has rolled off. I now sleep with my arms wrapped around him.





OH, and you can teach him how to get down safely. Every morning, drop him feet first off the bed (not drop, but help him while holding his hands) and tell him "feet first" or whatever phrase works for you.





And my son is 16 months tomorrow, so it does get better... its just about patience.
Reply:you might want to consider some formula to keep him full. Because you are nursing, breast milk is not as filling. You should talk to your pediatrician about starting cerial. Don't feel bad about the baby almost falling off the bed. My son has fallen off the bed more then once. He is three years old now and at about 9 months of age he rolled off the bed. He was just fine.
Reply:You are just going to have to deal with the cries and eventually he will get used to sleeping in his own bed and im sure he will sleep longer once he gets used to it. Thats what


I had to do with my daughter. I hope it works for you
Reply:breast milk is thinner than formula, so your baby will get hungry more quickly. he's probably like this during the day too.





maybe you can express your milk and mix some formula with it and give it to him in a bottle.





or just give him formula at night time.





i read "The Contented Baby Book" by Gina Ford. It recommends topping off the baby before You go to sleep.





so, if you nurse him at around 8:00pm, wake him at up 10:00 for a top off feed. this will help him last a few more hours. after doing this for about one week, he should be able to sleep through the night.





this book helped me a lot with both of my girls.
Reply:Maybe if you could move his crib out of your room. he may hear you at night and it's waking him up. I dont think I would let him sleep in bed with you at that age especially, it could be dangerous. My daughter just started sleeping through the night and she is also 7 months old. Good luck.
Reply:There is lot of information about breastfeeding and sleeping here:


http://www.kellymom.com/


http://www.lalecheleague.com/


http://www.askdrsears.com/default2.asp


http://www.mothering.com/articles/new_ba...


http://www.mothering.com/articles/new_ba...





Breastmilk does get digested more quickly so the baby will eat more often but you do not need to add formula to the babies diet. Breastmilk is the best nutrition. Many mother's do what you do - sleep with the baby. You can get rails for the bed to keep the baby from crawling off. I recommend the book The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. (http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/), Good Nights by Dr Jay Gordon and NIGHTTIME PARENTING by William Sears, MD.


You don't have to just let your baby cry. And my son slept longer once he was a year old. It is not abnormal for them to wake up that often.





Additional info:


"Should my baby be sleeping through the night?


It's so common for mothers to worry when their babies don't sleep through the night. After all, everyone knows they're "supposed to." Some doctors recommend nighttime weaning and "cry it out" methods if your baby is not sleeping through the night by 6 months or even earlier. Even when the mom herself has no problems with baby nursing at night, she still worries that this is a problem, since American society seem to consider it one. There are books all over the bookstores with advice on solving so-called "sleep problems."





First, please ignore what everyone else says about your baby's sleep habits and what is "normal." These people are not living with you or your baby. Unless your doctor sleeps in the next room and your baby is keeping him awake every night, he has no reason to question a healthy baby's sleep habits. If you and your baby enjoy nighttime feedings, then why not continue? It's a great way to have time with her, particularly if you are apart during the day.





Every baby is different, and some sleep through the night earlier than others (schedules or food usually have nothing to do with this). Your baby may be hungry (keep in mind that breastmilk digests in less than 2 hours) or she may just want time with you. Babies whose mothers work during the week often nurse more at night and on weekends, perhaps to reconnect with mom.





Doctors tend to look at night nursing only from a nutritional standpoint, but this is only part of the story. After the first few months, your baby will begin to associate the breast with far more than just a way to satisfy hunger and thirst. It becomes a place of comfort, security, warmth, closeness, and familiarity. The act of nursing is not just nourishing; it is nurturing. Keep in mind that these needs are every bit as real as baby's physical ones, and having them met is every bit as needful to baby's overall development.





If the amount that your child sleeps and nurses at night isn't a major problem for you, then there's no reason to try to change anything. You are NOT doing a bad thing by nursing on demand; you are doing a wonderful thing for your baby. When you comfort baby at night, you are not teaching her a bad habit: you are teaching her that you are there for her when she needs you -- Is security a bad habit?








What is normal when it comes to baby's sleep?


It is common for breastfed babies to not sleep through the night for a long period of time. On the other hand, some breastfed babies start sleeping through the night when a few months old.





Both of my children nursed once (occasionally more) at night through their second year. Since this doesn't bother me, I did doing nothing to change it. We co-sleep, and neither my baby nor I generally wake up completely when she nurses. Both started sleeping through the night on their own, when they were ready.


Your baby will begin to comfort herself and to sleep for longer stretches at her own developmental pace. If your baby wants to nurse at night, it is because she DOES need this, whether it's because she is hungry or because she wants to be close to mom. Sleeping through the night is a developmental milestone (like walking or toilet training) that your baby will reach when she is ready to. Trying to force or coax baby to reach this before her time may result in other problems later on.





If you can try to take a more relaxed approach and trust that it will come in time, you'll see your baby eventually become a good sleeper. You'll be able to rest peacefully in your heart and mind knowing that she reached this in her own time when she felt secure enough to do so, not because he had no other choice but to quiet herself because no one would come.





Probably one of the main reasons that night-waking babies are such a big issue is that parents don't have realistic expectations of the sleep patterns of babies. We are bombarded with magazine articles and books that perpetuate the myth that babies should not have nighttime needs. Babies were designed to wake up often at night to feed and cuddle, and keep in mind that many adults wake during the night, too. If our expectations for babies were not so different from our babies' expectations for themselves, much of this "problem" might disappear.





See Studies on normal infant sleep for more information on what is normal.








Why do babies wake at night?


Babies wake at night for many reasons, and they often start waking at night after sleeping through for a few months. Some of the reasons for night waking (in no particular order) are:





baby wants more time with mom


teething


developmental advances (for example: waking more often right before or after learning to turn over, crawl or talk)


illness, allergy, diaper rash, eczema


hunger (including growth spurts)


reverse cycling: Some babies whose moms are away during the day prefer to reject most/all supplements while mom is away, and nurse often during the evening and night. If mom is very busy during the day or if baby is very distracted, this can also lead to reverse cycling.


When your child nurses more often at night, go through this checklist to see if you can figure out what might be going on. Sometimes there may be more than one thing causing the night waking.











What about giving formula or solids at night to help baby sleep better?


See Will giving formula or solids at night help baby sleep better?











Gentle methods for encouraging less night nursing


See Night Weaning











Does night waking last forever?


Remember that night waking in babies and young children is normal and temporary!





Children grow out of night waking, even when we do nothing to discourage it. This period of time will be a very tiny part of your child's years with you.





Your goal is to maximize sleep for everyone in the family, while respecting the needs of your child.





If you're meeting this goal, then ignore anyone who suggests that you do things differently. If your sleep situation is not working (or stops working) then you can always do things differently. All parents find that they change the way they do things as their child grows older and reaches different developmental stages - sleep is just another thing that changes as your child grows." (from kellymom.com)





"Recent research suggests that longer stretches of deep sleep are associated with sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and babies who sleep longer/deeper may be more vulnerable to SIDS (see in particular the research of James McKenna, PhD). Some scientists are saying that it appears that long sleep stretches are not "natural" for human infants and that sleep interruptions in the early months may provide a protective factor against SIDS. More research is needed on this subject, but parents might want to think twice about significantly manipulating baby's natural sleep pattern in the early months." (from kellymom.com)





also from kellymom.com:





"In this study, part of the Avon Longitudinal Study of Pregnancy and Childhood (ALSPAC), researchers surveyed the parents of 640 babies. Some of the results:





Only 16% slept through the night at six months old -- 84% were not sleeping through the night at 6 months


17% woke more than once per night, ranging from twice to eight times


5% woke once every night


9% woke most nights


50% woke occasionally


16% of six-month-olds had no regular sleeping "





All babies are different and you have to find what works for you and your baby/family. I just included this information because many people never hear any of this in the media.
Reply:This is a common problem. What's going on is that your baby now has a habit. He can only sleep when he's nursing. Try to put him to sleep drowsy, but still awake. He is now old enough that he doesn't need to eat during the night, so try to give him back his binky, but don't feed him during the night. It might take a week or two to work, though. I am by no means an expert. But good luck! I hope this helps!





Oh! And solid food does not make any change in sleep habits. I read about this in Parenting Magazine. And it has made no change in my almost 6 month old's sleeping patterns, too.


How can I get better grades?

I am a horrible procrastinator. I mean I am the queen of all that is put of until the last minute! But then again, I thrive under the pressure, I do my best work the night before that project worth half my grade is due.





I also know I'm not stupid. I know I'm not a genius either! The thing is my parents expect me to get good grades. They expect me to get a scholarship. They expect me to be some successful CEO trying to take over the world!





And I want all of that also (exepct the whole becoming a CEO and taking over the world thing) but my study habits are horrible! Not only do I procrastinate, I NEVER study for anything!





But the thing was it wasn't until this semester that I've been getting bad grades (second semester of my freshman year), I've found myself thanking god for a C!





I know I have to stop just barely making it by the skin of my teeth, I just dont know how to do it. So could someone teach me how to bring my grades up, and teach me good study habits?

How can I get better grades?
If you do your homework they day it was given to you, think you will have plenty of spare time. if its a really big piece of homework, such an essay, spread it over a few days.
Reply:hi i'm a student of engnering university i got the same problem then somebody give me advice which was that divide your study time in such a way that you review your test material 3 times for e.g if your teacher delivers a lesson on day one then try learn it by heart on the same day,dont forget to review it on the other day.you can also do study in such a way that first you review the lesson which was dlivered the day before then that dat(present topic) and try to catch just a little outline of the topic which would be delivered the next day


pss by the way wat is CEO

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Can you recommend a good hotel in Brighton?

Hello I'm looking to go for 1 (monday) night to Brighton with my boyfriend and wondered if anyone could reccomend one? I've looked at Queens and Ramada that i like the look of. Budget of £100 (ideally bit less) inc breakfast. Important features are that room big and clean and have private bathroom with bath! Also prefer sea view. Thanks :)

Can you recommend a good hotel in Brighton?
Not the Grand, it see's far to much news..................
Reply:You can search and choose hotel information, rates and availability for free in over 200 countries world wide at my profile.
Reply:Go to the grand,maybe a bit pricey but it is exclusive and it is only for one night....treat yourself,i can't see a room being more than £100 and it is right on the seafront.
Reply:Can't recommend one particular but don't go to the Grand, going on a recent friends visit.
Reply:If you want to really teat yourselves i would say Hotel Du Vin if it is only for one night as room prices do vary and it is stunning and right on the seafront close to attractions but also very close to the lanes with some fantastic shops as well as great bars and restaurants. Go on Google and enter hotel Du Vin Brighton to see what you think of prices etc,if not just enter Hotels Brighton and you will get listings of loads..Hope you have a great time in Brighton i love living there it is the best place!!
Reply:Theres the old ship hotel which has sea views but at a budget of only £100 you might find this address helpful, I stayed at the hotel a few times and the most I spent was £80 for B%26amp;B one night maybe your luck is in try this address and see what you can get.


Scottish Songs / Tunes for Burns Night?

Happy Burns Night R%26amp;P :)





I'm bringing the whisky, so what Scottish songs / tunes will you all be playing here at my celebration of Rabbie's birth?





My must haves :~





"The Queen of Argyll" ~ Silly Wizard


"Monymusk Lads" ~ Old Blind Dogs


"Dean Cadalan / Servant to the Slave" ~ Capercaillie


"Gie's A Drink" ~ Deaf Shepherd


"The Gathering Storms" ~ Ross Kennedy %26amp; Archie McAllister

Scottish Songs / Tunes for Burns Night?
Loch Lomond - The Real McKenzies


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dRcurOYc0...





Fantastic version of the song.
Reply:John Barleycorn - Fairport Convention


Isabel - Steeleye Span (this one always brings a tear to me eye, a powerful song of a proud Scotland!)


Hal-an-Tow - The Oyster Band


Scotland's Story - The Proclaimers


Wages Day - Deacon Blue
Reply:Congratulations, Silver!! :-)





"Two Little Boys" sung by Ewen Bremner in the Movie "Trainspotting"





"All Tomorrow's Parties" by Nico (not a Scottish song, but a Gaelic motif is used in its writing)


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Reply:how about some rod stewart? isn't he of scottish descent? pardon my ignorance if not.
Reply:Aww, I love the Skye Boat song...and Rowan Tree...and Robin Adair :) (believe it or not, I was once in a drums and pipes band...a pretty peculiar thing to find along the Meixcan border)





Nonetheless, these are my submissions:





"Sleep The Clock Around" by Belle %26amp; Sebastian (listen to the pipes at the end of this tune...gives you goosebumps)





"Aye Today" The Delgados





and





"Tiny Little Fractures" by Snow Patrol








Happy Robert Burns Night!
Reply:Would McCartney's "Mull of Kintyre" count?
Reply:I have a love of most things Scottish, never had haggis though. I am a Ferguson on my mothers side I would also include some Fairport Convention and Steeleye Span, but I think some AC/DC songs would shake things up a bit. Happy Burns Night to you too
Reply:Flatfoot 56, Real McKenzies, and The Dropkick Murphys are good for that...bagpipes, electric guitar, mandolin....great stuff.
Reply:Is this only the fourth question ever asked by one Silver * Rose ~ Wolf? Just for that alone, I had to partake in this. Alas, I plead ignorance to all things associated with Burns Night. Knowing my madness, I'd be rewriting the rule book and going with Jesus %26amp; Mary Chain as well as some Garbage.





Happy Burns Night to you, don't do anything I wouldn't.
Reply:Happy Burns Night Silver


I am sorry, I don't know a thing about Sottish Music.


Which is, I know, inxescusable for a Man who's Great Grandfather's last name was Hargis.


All I can offer is My Scotts Heritage and a love of Whiskey
Reply:"Dirty Old Town" Originally done by Edwin McColl covered by the Pogues and many others. (Its a song about Glasgow but many think its about Dublin). Save some Haggis for me.





Slainte


A.C.
Reply:SKYE BOAT SONG





[traditional]











Speed bonny boat





Like a bird on the wing





"Onward" the sailors cry,





Carry the lad that's born to be king





Over the sea to Skye.





Loud the winds howl,





Loud the waves roar,





Thunder claps rend the air.





Baffled our foes stand by the shore.





Follow they will not dare.











Chorus





Though the waves leap, soft shall ye sleep





The ocean's a royal bed.





Rocked on the deep, Flora will keep





Watch by your weary head.











Many's the lad fought on that day,





Well the claymore could wield,





When the night came silently lay





Dead on Culloden's field.





Burnt are our homes:





Exile and death





Scatter the loyal men





Yet ere the sword cools in it's sheath





Charlie will come again.
Reply:camera obscura's 'I love my jean' and 'a red,red rose'.


QUESTIONS ON THE MIDSUMMER's NIGHT DREAM!!!?

1. When Hermia's father opposes her choice of husbands, Duke Theseus tells her not to go against her father saying "To you your father should be as a god." Is Theseus right?





2. The play ends with a triple wedding. Do you beleive that those getting married will stay married?





3. Write an informative essay focusing on what a typical wedding was like in Shakespeare's day.





4. Puck's magic spells cause several characters to fall in love with the wrong persons. Are there "magic spells" in real like that affect people this way?





5. Hippolyta, bethrothed to Theseus, is the queen of the Amazons, who play prominent roles in various stories in Greek mythology. Who were the Amazons.





6. German composer Felix Mendelssohn wrote music based on the themes in A Midsummer Night's Dream. One of these compostitions inspired by Shakespeare's play accomponies a ceremony performed thousand of times by churches throughout the world every year. What is the ceremony? What is the compostion?

QUESTIONS ON THE MIDSUMMER's NIGHT DREAM!!!?
If you're having trouble understanding the play you can go here:





http://www.nfs.sparknotes.com





It has side by side modern translations. However, please be aware that the more you read Sakespeare the easier it is to understand. People don't take kindly to being asked to do homework. We WANT you to learn to love Shakespeare.
Reply:This is obviously homework. Some of these questions are even asking for opinions! Wouldn't it be easier to just do the homework?
Reply:just do your homework or better yet....read the play and then do your homework


Wedding flowers?

okay so my wedding colors are black red and silver i am tring to pair the queen of the night tulip(black looking flower)...with flowers that are red, which shouldnt be a probelm but what do i do to incorporate silver? are there any flowers that look silver? Also does anyone have any ideas about other things to do in the whole black silver red concept.

Wedding flowers?
You can use the foliage of Helichrysum petiolare (licorice plant), it's gray and has nice leaves.





http://www.mobot.org/gardeninghelp/plant...





You won't have a problem coming up with red flowers but consider mixing Rosa 'Black Baccara' in because it's a great bridge between the black and red.





http://www.ccfc.org/encyclopedia/12.html





Hope this helps some. Congrats.
Reply:Craft stores have all sorts of "filler" type material you can put in with them. There is one type that has a few stems that stick out that are fairly small, but you can use scissors to curl them--like you would do with curly Christmas ribbon. That would be a nice accent. Or you could possibly go with a very small amount of baby's breath spray painted a light silver or with silver glitter on it. I would say just go to a craft store and browse around the floral department. You're likely to walk away with more ideas than you could possibly use. Congratulations and Good luck!
Reply:I would go to a craft store in your area and get some fake silk silver leaves or something, i know its sounds a little off, but even just one little piece with the flowers will make the silver pop out, or consider maybe using silver ribbon to tie together the bouqet?

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How do you get your 2 1/2 year old to sleep in there own bed???

My two and a half year old daughter has started coming into my room at night and sleeping with me and my husband. Now she is just going straight to our bed and going to sleep. How do you stop this. I want to be able to have room in my bed at night, turns out she likes to sleep sideways and we have only a queen. Can someone help with this please. What worked for you

How do you get your 2 1/2 year old to sleep in there own bed???
I had the same problem. I just started putting my son in his room and told him that he could only sleep in his bed. I told him how special it is to have his own room and be surrounded by his toys. The first night was terrible and I didn't get to bed until about 3 am, but the next night was better, and the next night, and so on. I make sure there is a night light on. We go in his room about 15 minutes before bedtime and read a couple stories and get him settled in. Just make the vibe calm and confident, it will happen. Good Luck
Reply:I have three children, and went through this with all of them. The biggest thing is to set up a routine. i.e.- bath, teeth, jammies, bear (special toy), story, bed. Then put her in her bed. If she comes to your bed, take her back to her bed. A BIG part of this is to decide what the initial bed time plan is, stick to your plan, and don't change or you will lose. She will cry, wail, nash her teeth and drum her feet on the floor. Or, she will be really cute and funny. They are all ploys of manipulation that our children know they can get away with (and sometimes they do--but this isn't one of them!) Start on a weekend, the first night is LONG. It will get shorter quickly as soon as she learns the routine. If she runs out to you because you haven't gone to bed, just say "time for night-night", pick her up and put her back to her bed with a kiss. No lingering, yelling, swatting, then leave. My children have grown up so fast--we are looking at colleges with our first. Good luck! Keep her out of your bed!
Reply:Sleep in their bed til they fall asleep then go into your bed. And if that dosent work give them a bracelet to "keep them safe" at night. She may be haveing bad dreams without you there.
Reply:why do you want them to? let them be with mom and cherish her comfort as long as they want. they deserve it.
Reply:I made her bed a very exciting place to be (it is a Dora bed and she loves Dora). I always talked up her bed and made it seem awesome. And when all else fails (although sometimes I let her sleep with me) I just do the super nanny thing - keep putting them back in their own bed until they fall asleep. Persistence pays off. I had to do that for and hour and a half the other day to get her to take a nap but now she is back on a proper schedule. Good Luck!!!
Reply:Everytime she comes to your room take her back to her room %26amp; put her to bed explaining to her that everyone has their place to sleep and make no exceptions. It only took 1 1/2 wks for me to accomplish this. Consistency is a parents best friend.
Reply:We are working on this right now, too. For us so far, the secret is to make it fun for her to sleep in her own room and in her own bed, and to talk about how she's such a 'big girl' when she sleeps on her own. I use my tone of voice to slowly get her around to my side, making it sound like a lot more fun and grown up to sleep on her own than to sleep with me. I guess what's working is when I can get her to think that it's her idea to sleep by herself. It's not easy, I know. This is just one idea. Good luck, and don't give up. Something will work for you guys. It just takes persistance.
Reply:i have a two year old son and we started letting him sleep with us at 10 months and we had to resort to " SLEEP TRAINING" it took him 4 nights to get it that no more sleeping in mommy and daddy's bed/room, I like a few have said already started him on a routine, and we would both put him to bed in his bed give hugs and nite nite kisses and then shut his door, yes he screamed forever but the crying decreased and then stoped within 4 days, it was very hard but do not go to her for any reason unless she cries so that she makes herself throw-up.....but other then that let her cry it out.....tough love is the best way to go on some things......i felt so mean for letting my son scream but now it was worth it to have my bed back to myself and my husband.
Reply:see wut u do is let them go 2 sleep in yo bed then take them 2 they bed
Reply:Establish a nightly bedtime routine (story, lullybye, prayer, whatever works for you and the child). Then but them in there own bed tell them you love them very much but they are to sleep in their own bed beacause they are a big boy/girl. When the come into your room in the middle of the night (and trust me they will) take them back to there own bed and leave. Do not hang around and try to persuade them or baby them back to sleep. You may have to do this more than once, but stick with it and with in a few days you will have your bed to yourselves again. You just got to be strong and make the effort.
Reply:Tips For Helping Children Sleep In Their Own Beds


Many families throughout history have chosen a "family bed." In fact, in most cultures around the world today a "family bed" is the norm. If that is a family's choice, it can work very well. However, having a "family bed" is not for everyone. It also works well to teach children to sleep in their own beds. Here are some tips on how to help children sleep in their own beds:





It does not work well to tell children to sleep in their bed and then relent when they act up. This only teaches them that their persistence will be rewarded with a trip to your bed.








The best approach is to discover the underlying cause or causes for your child's behavior. At some level, your child knows why she doesn't want to sleep in her own bed, even if she isn't able to articulate what she is feeling. If you ask her outright what she is feeling, you may not get any valuable information.








A great way of discovering what your child is feeling is to play with her using dolls or action figures to represent members of a family. Have the characters act out several typical family situations: mealtime, going to the park, driving in the car, etc. Enact several of these non-threatening situations, and let your child put words into the figures' mouths. When you get to bedtime, if your child is hesitant to talk, you can try speaking for the characters. If your child has gotten into the play, she will correct you if you give the characters motivations that are inaccurate from her perspective.








Another approach is to encourage your child to color or paint while she tells you about what she is creating. Be sure to allow her lots of time to open up and don't react negatively if she says something you don't want to hear.








The things you are most likely to find are: your child has night time fears, i.e. she is afraid of the dark, being alone, closet monsters, etc.; she is jealous of one parent or a sibling; she is afraid of losing your affection if she "grows up"; or some variation of one or more of these.








If your child is suffering from night time fears, give her tools that empower her to overcome her fears:





o Give her a flashlight to play with (especially during the day in a darkened room) to help overcome fear of the dark.


o Give her a spray bottle filled with "monster spray" so she can shoot the monsters if they come out.


o Record a tape of her favorite stories and songs that she can turn on whenever she is feeling alone or afraid (it is best if the recording is of your voice).


o Give her a stuffed animal as big as she is to sleep with.


o Ask her for suggestions.








If the primary reason your child wants to sleep with you is night time fears, you should be able to switch her into her own bed as soon as she has the tools to cope with her fears.








If you discover that your child is jealous of one parent or a sibling, evaluate the situation and determine if she has reason to be jealous. If she has a younger sibling who is getting most of your attention during the day, she may feel the only time she "gets you" is at night. The best way you can help overcome her jealously is to pay special attention to her when she is not asking for it.








If your child reveals that she is afraid that she will lose your affection when she grows up, take stock of what you are communicating to her regarding growing up. You may inadvertently be sending her the message that you want her to stay a baby. If this is the case, consider how you can change her feelings by the way you communicate with her.








You will need to take some time for your child’s feelings to change before you can move her into her own bed. When you do, you may need to make the change in several stages. The first few nights she might sleep on the floor beside your bed. The next move might be right outside your door, then into her own bed. The large stuffed animal or the tape recording of your voice may help ease the transition.
Reply:your in a new world know, shes not going to want to sleep in her room until probably age 7...you wanted to be a parent, there are the sacrafices
Reply:My 2 1/2 started that too. and i liked it, cause his dad works away from home, but then he tried it while his dad was home. so i decided i had to put a stop to it. I know its cute... but your in for huge trouble if you dont end it soon. I had to tuck my son in his own bed and tell him, honey you need to sleep in your own bed tonight, and it took a couple talks...and even now, if he wakes up in the middle of the night i get my lazy *** out of bed, and put him back in his own, so he knows...he cant sleep with mommy. It is just consistancy. And once in a while he will ask for mommys bed, and if we had a good day i will tell him...ok, but just for tonight, but if i say no, he will stay in his own bed. he still naps, so i lay down with him at nap time, and tell him, you can sleep in mommys bed for nap today....but he knows it is a privilage.. and he really enjoys it when he gets it!
Reply:We tricked one of my daughters by allowing her to sleep on the floor of our room in her sleeping bag and moving the bag farther and farther away each night. Eventually she was almost in her room and decided the floor was hard and her bed was soft (since she obviously was not going to get itno ours) This allowed her to make her own decision while not compromising her feelings of insecurity. Our younger daughter did not respond to this method at all. She did however respond to a rigid bedtime schedule and routine. Hope one of these methods works for you.
Reply:that should be so easy.when they are sleeping let your boyfriend pick them up and put them in there bed.DUH.
Reply:Put her in bed and tell her she is to sleep there not with you. If she comes in take her back and put her to bed. If she cries, that is OK. Let her know she is a big girl and that u are close by, but she must sleep in her own bed. Does she have a favorite toy she can sleep with?


Midsummer's night dream questions?

1. When Hermia's father opposes her choice of husbands, Duke Theseus tells her not to go against her father saying "To you your father should be as a god." Is Theseus right?





2. The play ends with a triple wedding. Do you beleive that those getting married will stay married?





3. Write an informative essay focusing on what a typical wedding was like in Shakespeare's day.





4. Puck's magic spells cause several characters to fall in love with the wrong persons. Are there "magic spells" in real like that affect people this way?





5. Hippolyta, bethrothed to Theseus, is the queen of the Amazons, who play prominent roles in various stories in Greek mythology. Who were the Amazons.





6. German composer Felix Mendelssohn wrote music based on the themes in A Midsummer Night's Dream. One of these compostitions inspired by Shakespeare's play accomponies a ceremony performed thousand of times by churches throughout the world every year. What is the ceremony? What is the compostion?

Midsummer's night dream questions?
For 6 the answer is Mendelsohn's Wedding March which we know as "Here comes the Bride."


Queen Mary cruise?

I am going on a cruise on the Queen Mary with my Uncle and Aunt in May and I am told that the evenings are quiet formal. Its a 14 day cruise and apparently there are 4 formal nights whilst we are on board.





I am new to cruising as are my Uncle and Aunt. What should I wear on the formal nights and what do you wear on the other less formal nights.


Sam 17 UK

Queen Mary cruise?
We went on the QM2 last year and I'm very jealous that you're going on it, it's a beautiful ship and I hope to go on it again next year.





The proper formal nights are tuxedo's for men and evening gown for women - if you're female, you really need a long dress. If you're a young man, you could probably get away with a shirt and tie. Your uncle could probably do the same if he doesn't have a tuxedo. The other nights you need smart dress - jacket and shirt for men and a dress or smart top and trousers for a women. You don't need a tie for these nights.





You can avoid these nights if you want to - we ate in the 'formal' dining room on the first night but then ate in the other restaurants every night as we really liked the Italian. The other restaurants are smart dress - imagine you were going to a nice restaurant at home and that's what you should wear i.e. not jeans but a nice shirt and trousers (no jacket or tie required) The other option is the buffet dining room in which case you can wear anything you like but I don't think they like shorts at nights.





Hope you have a great time, I've done a few cruises and this has been my favourite ship. They have live music in the pub at lunchtimes and if you want to see it, get there early to grab a table, you need to be there about 11ish. It's also one of the many wi-fi hotspots so I took my laptop and did stuff online and my husband read travel books whilst we were waiting for the music - you can also have a pub lunch in there.
Reply:Trust me as an experienced sailor...Ten years working on cruise ships (various fleets)...


Cunard have a very 'British' standard for dress on their formal nights.


Not sure if you are male ot female...sorry!





Male, you should endevour to go with tuxedo, if this is not possible at least a full suit and tie.





Female - go with a ballgown if possible, if your not a dress person, go with a full trouser suit.
Reply:queen mary sends details of what you should wear formal nights are ballgowns less formal are cocktail dresses or smart trouser suits enjoy your-self


Night With An Angel.......My Poem!! How is it? Rate Please....?

Here is a poem....how is it? how many marks will you give out of ten?





Among the thousand stars one night


Appeared a fairy, white in light


My eyes were clos'd but heart was wake


By chance, to feel her song of might





Nearer she came the singing sprite


Emptied her bough the owl in fright


Her beauty spread in air a light


The brook the paus'd to have a sight





The sky drizzled as if in bliss


A breeze then came and gave a kiss


She rais'd her hands and did a touch


The heart of heaven I felt in this





Within my thoughts a morn then born


I caught a sight of graveyard yon


To there I walk'd to know who sounds


I found a baby, newly born





Beside the grave I saw a scene


There lay on marsh an eartly queen


A gale then broke and took her 'way


To heights and heights I never had seen





Across my mind a scene then rode


A Kingless throne and crown it show'd


And people taking holy bath


In streams of grief that overflow'd





At once a star in earth had shone


I saw a fairy in that throne


A thousand stream of bliss then flow'd


Out of her heart to miles unknown.

Night With An Angel.......My Poem!! How is it? Rate Please....?
Wow. This is beautiful. Very nice detail, almost movie script like. I'm saving this one into my favorites. The additional info. also muchly appreciated. I was thinking more "Harry Potter" when I was reading it, and now that I've read it a few times, the "religious content" really shines. I hope alot of people get to read this. Excellent stuff. Write on!
Reply:this is very good. I could really imagine the scene. love it! keep writing!
Reply:8.5 With some rework it would be a 9 plus. Well done.

skin disease

The other night I played a board game, used different colored marbles (not Parcheesi)?

There were holes around the outside some holes were colored and we each got 5 cards. ace -10 were moves jack queen king had other functions it was called tok or tak ? I looked on search no luck any ideas where i can get one?

The other night I played a board game, used different colored marbles (not Parcheesi)?
At your local toy store, just say what you have written here and I am sure they can help you.
Reply:chinese checkers
Reply:Chinese checkers maybe.
Reply:chinese checkers
Reply:It is not Chinese Checkers, definitely.
Reply:chinese checkers
Reply:is it not Chinese checkers


Did you know that Queen of the South is the only team to be mentioned in The BIble?

As I was reading The Bible the other night (Thursday) I noticed QotS was quoted and thought it may be a sign, I looked up the internet and found out it is the only football teams name to be mentioned in The Great Book.


Would it be an absolute disaster if The Doonhamers won today?


Can we expect a Rangers backlash after Thursday or will they take them too lightly?


The thing is Aberdeen crushed Rangers on Thursday and Queen of the South beat Aberdeen with a great display in the semi final.


Can they reproduce that result against Rangers?


So many questions, what do you think or hope for?

Did you know that Queen of the South is the only team to be mentioned in The BIble?
Awwww Oracle no need for your wee book...we won something at freaking last !!! My god, nae voice for what feels like weeks now and only 2 pieces of silverware to show for it..... gutted but proud if that makes sense!?....ok so maybe im a wee bit drunk...but its the end of season party !!!!





And on that note (what happened to the forum eos party?)
Reply:I really dont think the gers will lose today but after losing the UEFA Cup and the League they are major bummed. so anything can happen and according to wally he's finding it hard to motivate them.





P.S. I did know about QOS in the Bible.
Reply:QOS have every chance today, as i have said many times Rangers are a bad lot! Go out and give it a go at least the Queens will play 4-4-2 In a major final, Know where im coming from?
Reply:Anything is possible in football,the last week has shown me that lol!!!.You can't write off QOS no matter what the odds are but i think Rangers will be playing for pride so who knows.
Reply:What about the Rabbis Who were READING and there was a plague of locusts which is a feeder team for GRASSHOPPERS.lol
Reply:FFS. one of these people that thinks just becuase team A beats team B and team B beat team C, then that must mean team A will beat team C. If only life was as simple as that.
Reply:it also says jesus LEEDS his disciples
Reply:i'd like to see queen of the south winning today but think it's going to be touch cause walter's men will be out to prove they can win another trophy.
Reply:I did m8, but not through the bible, but through watching football focus a few weeks ago.
Reply:i didnt know until i read it in the paper.





i read the paper as the bible doesnt have page 3 girls.
Reply:I am a bit late in answering this (no 5hit Sherlock!)m ut I would like to reinforce Wee Ger's request for an eos party, where and when?
Reply:Don't need to think or hope it's all over now. And with no help from the book that you quoted!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Did Jesus not say to the disciples " did you see the rangers game last night, are they boring or what?"
Reply:lets hope QoS can make Walter's quadruple bypass complete. Lets all laugh at Novo.
Reply:WE ARE THE PEOPLE


I'm in a play as the Queen and i don't know what to wear. Help?

I'm in the play "Princess and the Pea" as a spring play. I'm the queen and i don't know what to wear! For those who don't know, it's a fairytale, so i'm looking for something sort of midevil or rennisance like. Nothing pink, only practical queen colors. Blacks, burgendys, colors like that. My mom can make something, because we have 3 months until the opening night. If you have any ideas, pictures, places to get a pattern, anything, please give them to me. Oh, and i would like it to be poofy.





Please %26amp; Thank You

I'm in a play as the Queen and i don't know what to wear. Help?
http://www.jaycotts.co.uk/acatalog/Vogue...


Here you can get some patterns for modern dresses and from there you could adapt them a bit?





Also apparently there are many on Ebay!





Not sure where else though! Good luck!











http://www.bridalwave.tv/Queen%20Liz.JPG


Queen Elizabeths wedding dress, you could play around with the colours etc!





http://www.costumesofnashua.com/CNWebSit...


Another one.





Love the sleaves on this one :


http://www.costumesofnashua.com/CNWebSit...





This one is pretty unusual :


http://www.renaissancedress.com/bustle1....





Something like this would also work, and be a little easier to make!!! in a different coulour!


http://www.costumesofnashua.com/CNWebSit...





All the best for the play, hope it goes wonderfully!


Missing School, Can't Sleep Night, Can't Wake Up Morning!?

My 12 year old daughter has been taking Zoloft for her social anxiety for 3 years now. Recently, the doc added Folic Acid prescription to her daily meds.





Ever since my daugher was 18 months old, she's been sleeping in a queen-size bed. I've always had trouble getting her to bed at night .





Now, her counselor decided to test her for ADHD, because she has attention problems at school.





She has been missing too many days from school because she won't get up. Can she also have depression? I know depression makes you feel tired and sleepy. I will discuss this at her next doc appt, but just wanted to get some other opinions.





Thanks

Missing School, Can't Sleep Night, Can't Wake Up Morning!?
Possible, but I do believe she needs to be seen and probably have more testing. Discuss with them ways you could deal with this.
Reply:Zoloft is also for depression, so it should be working for that along with the anxiety. Three years is a long time to be on it for either.





You say "won't get up" does that mean she is too sleepy or too depressed or fearful of going to school.And what is her pay- of for missing school.





Spending time with Mommy, being the sick little girl.





Maybe it is time for her to see a psychotherapist.
Reply:Your first mistake was allowing her to be put on medication at such a young age. What a great concept to give to your child - "let a pill solve your problems for you." Not to mention that it's not the best thing for a nine year old, health wise....especially for 3 years.





The first, and most responsible, thing you can do for your daughter is to find her a different doctor.





Second, why are you allowing her to sleep in and miss school? You are the parent. If I knew that all I had to do to miss school was to sleep in, I'd sure as hell would have done it. Quit playing along with her little game and take some responsibility.
Reply:I'm not an expert so dont take it 4 granted





But I think the reason your daughter is sleepy becuz of the medication not depression. She may improve with time by finding something that 'll make her happy. It is rare that kids get depression so be positive and consult many doctors!





good luck !!!!
Reply:I wonder if your daughter could be using her percieved condition(s) to bend you to her will, I don't know much about the meds you described but I don't like the idea of kids being medicated unless absolutely necessary

Shark Teeth

Shakepeare's twelfth night and sonnet 130...please help?

I am writting and essay to analyze how both cover the similair theme to not judge a book by its cover. In twelfth night I know that Olivia is pretending to be her brother and the queen falls in love with her, olivia is also in love with the man teaching her to mature into a man and niether know that she is a woman. and in sonnet 130 he is explaining that his love may seem ugly on the outside but she is beautiful on the inside and he loves her anyway. If you could help me explain this a little better or give a few more ideas, that would help so much. Thank you!

Shakepeare's twelfth night and sonnet 130...please help?
Hello Amanda.


In the sonnet, he is not deceived by the physical appearance, but instead has a perception of understand (having the ability to clearly see things the vvay they are, not vvhat they present themselves to be) and his love is pure and true. He loves her for vvhom and vvhat she truly is.





In Tvvelfe-Night, or vvhat you vvill (Tvvelfth Night), it is vice versa. The characters are by appearance deceived. The rich countess (queen), Olivia, vvas in love by vvhat perceiveth she. But vvhat perceiveth she vvas a guise, a front, vvhich used Viola as a veil for her true self, tricking also the sea captain vvhom she fell in love vvith. They knevv not the actual but the fake outvvard look, and had a false relationship vvith Viola, until the end.





I hope this helps vvith your essay. Take care.




















Matthevv 19:11 But He said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to vvhom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, vvhich vvere so born from their mother's vvomb: and there are some eunuchs, vvhich vvere made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, vvhich have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.


Midsummers Night Dream?

1. What is the setting of Act I.1 of AMND?





Athens


Padua


Rome


Venice





2. What options does Theseus give Hermia if she does not marry Demetrius (Act I.1)?





a. She can marry Lysander and leave Athens


b. She must toil as a slave in the olive groves


c. She will be beheaded and her body drawn and quartered


d. She will be put to death or spend her life in a convent.





3. What secret plan do Lysander and Hermia make (Act I.1)?





At the next moon, they will kill Egeus in his sleep


They will disguise Helena as Hermia and have her go to bed with Demetrius


They will meet in the woods outside of Athens and then go to Lysander’s aunt


They will plead their case with Hippolyta





4. What role is Bottom to enact in the tradesman’s play (Act I.2)?





a. Achilles


b. Hercules


c. Pyramus


d. Thisby





5. According to Puck (Robin Goodfellow), why are Oberon and his queen (Titania) quarreling (Act II.1)?





a. Oberon wants Titania’s changeling boy


b. Oberon wants to date other women


c. Titania has dropped love juice in Oberon’s eyes and he is angry


d. Titania wants to rule the fairies on her own





6. Which two characters’ eyes does Oberon want anointed with the juice of “love-in-idleness” (Act II.1)?





Demetrius and Helena


Lysander and Titania


Theseus and Hippolyta


Titania and Demetrius


7. Whose eyelids does Puck anoint mistakenly with the flower’s juice (Act II.2)?





a. Helena’s


b. Hermia’s


c. Lysander’s


d. Oberon’s





8. In what way does Puck transform Bottom in Act III.1?


He anoints his eyes to make him fall in love with Titania


He changes his head into that of an ***


He disguises him as Oberon


He gives him the wings and flying ability of a fairy





9. Which two characters are fighting over their love for Helena (Act III.2)?


Bottom and Peter Quince


Demetrius and Lysander


Oberon and Puck


Titania and Egeus





10. Which two lovers are on stage at the beginning of Act IV.1?


Demetrius and Helena


Egeus and Mustardseed


Oberon and Puck


Titania and Bottom





11. What good news does Bottom arrive with in Act IV.2?


He has found Oberon’s treasure of gold in the woods


He is free of the ***’s head


He is to be married


Their play is preferred by Theseus





12. According to Theseus, what three kinds of people “are of imagination all compact” (Act V.1)?


a. Kings, priest, and soldiers


b. Lunatics, lovers, and poets


c. Politicians, farmers, and scholars


d. Singers, dancers, and painters





13. In the A Midsummer Night’s Dream movie, Bottom is married


True


False





14. In the A Midsummer Night’s Dream movie, Helena rides a bicycle into the woods.


True


False





15. In the A Midsummer Night’s Dream movie, the role of Thisby is played by a woman.


a. True


b. False

Midsummers Night Dream?
1. Athens, Greece





2. D. Become a nun or get married





3. They are going to get married at Lysanders aunts





4. C.





5. A. The Indian boy.





6. Titania so she will be foolish and Demetrius so he will love Helena





7. He accidentally outs the potient in Lysanders making him fall in love with Helena.





8. He makes him an A**





9. Demetrius and Lysander.





10. I don't have it in my hand so I can't tell you but go to sparknotes and you can find it there.





11. I don't have it in my hand so I can't tell you but go to sparknotes and you can find it there.





12.I don't have it in my hand so I can't tell you but go to sparknotes and you can find it there.





13. If it is the one with Kevin Kline then yes he is. true





14. ok so this means it is that one I reffered to above. so true.





15. true
Reply:I suggest you read the play to get your answers. It's all there. Also, the correct title is "A Midsummer Night's Dream". But for # 13, 14, 15 movie questions.


# 13 - False. Bottom is not married at the beginning of the play.


#14 - True


#15 - False. Thisby (or Thisbe) is never played by a woman.