How do you get your 2 1/2 year old to sleep in there own bed???

My two and a half year old daughter has started coming into my room at night and sleeping with me and my husband. Now she is just going straight to our bed and going to sleep. How do you stop this. I want to be able to have room in my bed at night, turns out she likes to sleep sideways and we have only a queen. Can someone help with this please. What worked for you

How do you get your 2 1/2 year old to sleep in there own bed???
I had the same problem. I just started putting my son in his room and told him that he could only sleep in his bed. I told him how special it is to have his own room and be surrounded by his toys. The first night was terrible and I didn't get to bed until about 3 am, but the next night was better, and the next night, and so on. I make sure there is a night light on. We go in his room about 15 minutes before bedtime and read a couple stories and get him settled in. Just make the vibe calm and confident, it will happen. Good Luck
Reply:I have three children, and went through this with all of them. The biggest thing is to set up a routine. i.e.- bath, teeth, jammies, bear (special toy), story, bed. Then put her in her bed. If she comes to your bed, take her back to her bed. A BIG part of this is to decide what the initial bed time plan is, stick to your plan, and don't change or you will lose. She will cry, wail, nash her teeth and drum her feet on the floor. Or, she will be really cute and funny. They are all ploys of manipulation that our children know they can get away with (and sometimes they do--but this isn't one of them!) Start on a weekend, the first night is LONG. It will get shorter quickly as soon as she learns the routine. If she runs out to you because you haven't gone to bed, just say "time for night-night", pick her up and put her back to her bed with a kiss. No lingering, yelling, swatting, then leave. My children have grown up so fast--we are looking at colleges with our first. Good luck! Keep her out of your bed!
Reply:Sleep in their bed til they fall asleep then go into your bed. And if that dosent work give them a bracelet to "keep them safe" at night. She may be haveing bad dreams without you there.
Reply:why do you want them to? let them be with mom and cherish her comfort as long as they want. they deserve it.
Reply:I made her bed a very exciting place to be (it is a Dora bed and she loves Dora). I always talked up her bed and made it seem awesome. And when all else fails (although sometimes I let her sleep with me) I just do the super nanny thing - keep putting them back in their own bed until they fall asleep. Persistence pays off. I had to do that for and hour and a half the other day to get her to take a nap but now she is back on a proper schedule. Good Luck!!!
Reply:Everytime she comes to your room take her back to her room %26amp; put her to bed explaining to her that everyone has their place to sleep and make no exceptions. It only took 1 1/2 wks for me to accomplish this. Consistency is a parents best friend.
Reply:We are working on this right now, too. For us so far, the secret is to make it fun for her to sleep in her own room and in her own bed, and to talk about how she's such a 'big girl' when she sleeps on her own. I use my tone of voice to slowly get her around to my side, making it sound like a lot more fun and grown up to sleep on her own than to sleep with me. I guess what's working is when I can get her to think that it's her idea to sleep by herself. It's not easy, I know. This is just one idea. Good luck, and don't give up. Something will work for you guys. It just takes persistance.
Reply:i have a two year old son and we started letting him sleep with us at 10 months and we had to resort to " SLEEP TRAINING" it took him 4 nights to get it that no more sleeping in mommy and daddy's bed/room, I like a few have said already started him on a routine, and we would both put him to bed in his bed give hugs and nite nite kisses and then shut his door, yes he screamed forever but the crying decreased and then stoped within 4 days, it was very hard but do not go to her for any reason unless she cries so that she makes herself throw-up.....but other then that let her cry it out.....tough love is the best way to go on some things......i felt so mean for letting my son scream but now it was worth it to have my bed back to myself and my husband.
Reply:see wut u do is let them go 2 sleep in yo bed then take them 2 they bed
Reply:Establish a nightly bedtime routine (story, lullybye, prayer, whatever works for you and the child). Then but them in there own bed tell them you love them very much but they are to sleep in their own bed beacause they are a big boy/girl. When the come into your room in the middle of the night (and trust me they will) take them back to there own bed and leave. Do not hang around and try to persuade them or baby them back to sleep. You may have to do this more than once, but stick with it and with in a few days you will have your bed to yourselves again. You just got to be strong and make the effort.
Reply:Tips For Helping Children Sleep In Their Own Beds


Many families throughout history have chosen a "family bed." In fact, in most cultures around the world today a "family bed" is the norm. If that is a family's choice, it can work very well. However, having a "family bed" is not for everyone. It also works well to teach children to sleep in their own beds. Here are some tips on how to help children sleep in their own beds:





It does not work well to tell children to sleep in their bed and then relent when they act up. This only teaches them that their persistence will be rewarded with a trip to your bed.








The best approach is to discover the underlying cause or causes for your child's behavior. At some level, your child knows why she doesn't want to sleep in her own bed, even if she isn't able to articulate what she is feeling. If you ask her outright what she is feeling, you may not get any valuable information.








A great way of discovering what your child is feeling is to play with her using dolls or action figures to represent members of a family. Have the characters act out several typical family situations: mealtime, going to the park, driving in the car, etc. Enact several of these non-threatening situations, and let your child put words into the figures' mouths. When you get to bedtime, if your child is hesitant to talk, you can try speaking for the characters. If your child has gotten into the play, she will correct you if you give the characters motivations that are inaccurate from her perspective.








Another approach is to encourage your child to color or paint while she tells you about what she is creating. Be sure to allow her lots of time to open up and don't react negatively if she says something you don't want to hear.








The things you are most likely to find are: your child has night time fears, i.e. she is afraid of the dark, being alone, closet monsters, etc.; she is jealous of one parent or a sibling; she is afraid of losing your affection if she "grows up"; or some variation of one or more of these.








If your child is suffering from night time fears, give her tools that empower her to overcome her fears:





o Give her a flashlight to play with (especially during the day in a darkened room) to help overcome fear of the dark.


o Give her a spray bottle filled with "monster spray" so she can shoot the monsters if they come out.


o Record a tape of her favorite stories and songs that she can turn on whenever she is feeling alone or afraid (it is best if the recording is of your voice).


o Give her a stuffed animal as big as she is to sleep with.


o Ask her for suggestions.








If the primary reason your child wants to sleep with you is night time fears, you should be able to switch her into her own bed as soon as she has the tools to cope with her fears.








If you discover that your child is jealous of one parent or a sibling, evaluate the situation and determine if she has reason to be jealous. If she has a younger sibling who is getting most of your attention during the day, she may feel the only time she "gets you" is at night. The best way you can help overcome her jealously is to pay special attention to her when she is not asking for it.








If your child reveals that she is afraid that she will lose your affection when she grows up, take stock of what you are communicating to her regarding growing up. You may inadvertently be sending her the message that you want her to stay a baby. If this is the case, consider how you can change her feelings by the way you communicate with her.








You will need to take some time for your child’s feelings to change before you can move her into her own bed. When you do, you may need to make the change in several stages. The first few nights she might sleep on the floor beside your bed. The next move might be right outside your door, then into her own bed. The large stuffed animal or the tape recording of your voice may help ease the transition.
Reply:your in a new world know, shes not going to want to sleep in her room until probably age 7...you wanted to be a parent, there are the sacrafices
Reply:My 2 1/2 started that too. and i liked it, cause his dad works away from home, but then he tried it while his dad was home. so i decided i had to put a stop to it. I know its cute... but your in for huge trouble if you dont end it soon. I had to tuck my son in his own bed and tell him, honey you need to sleep in your own bed tonight, and it took a couple talks...and even now, if he wakes up in the middle of the night i get my lazy *** out of bed, and put him back in his own, so he knows...he cant sleep with mommy. It is just consistancy. And once in a while he will ask for mommys bed, and if we had a good day i will tell him...ok, but just for tonight, but if i say no, he will stay in his own bed. he still naps, so i lay down with him at nap time, and tell him, you can sleep in mommys bed for nap today....but he knows it is a privilage.. and he really enjoys it when he gets it!
Reply:We tricked one of my daughters by allowing her to sleep on the floor of our room in her sleeping bag and moving the bag farther and farther away each night. Eventually she was almost in her room and decided the floor was hard and her bed was soft (since she obviously was not going to get itno ours) This allowed her to make her own decision while not compromising her feelings of insecurity. Our younger daughter did not respond to this method at all. She did however respond to a rigid bedtime schedule and routine. Hope one of these methods works for you.
Reply:that should be so easy.when they are sleeping let your boyfriend pick them up and put them in there bed.DUH.
Reply:Put her in bed and tell her she is to sleep there not with you. If she comes in take her back and put her to bed. If she cries, that is OK. Let her know she is a big girl and that u are close by, but she must sleep in her own bed. Does she have a favorite toy she can sleep with?