How can I fall asleep with him in the bed?

I have been recently having trouble sleeping in my boyfriend's bed(a queen with two pillows and one big blanket.) When I am alone in the bed I fall asleep no problem but as soon as he gets in the bed I am tossing and turning and can't get comfortable. I wake up 2-3 times a night after I finally fall asleep and when I wake in the morning I feel like I only slept 5 minutes.





When we sleep in my bed (which is a twin with loads of pillows, soft sheets and big fluffy blankets) it still takes me a minute or two to get comfy but then I am out like a light and wake up feeling refreshed.





MY one suspicio is that his bed isn't comfortable enough for me, but the thing is when he's not init I sleep just fine. We have a very loving relationship so I know my subconcious isn't trying to get my attention, but what the heck? How can I deal with this?

How can I fall asleep with him in the bed?
throw the bed out start all over again.go invest in a Stearns %26amp; Foster Mattresses.
Reply:It is adjusting to someone else's environment and someone being in your space. It happens to most people who are new at living together.
Reply:I think you're sensing there's something terribly wrong with him.
Reply:When he's not there, it's like a hotel, temporarily "your" bed. But when he's there, your in "his" space. You feel like an invader, so it's hard to get comfortable.
Reply:try taking a mild sedative until you become accustomed to him being there.
Reply:it's all mental. all about control and you wanting to be in your comfort zone. waking up only 2-3 times a night a significantly less than an average person does. be happy you got a lovin man and quit your bitchin...
Reply:many couples sleep in separate beds for this very reason. Maybe you feel like he's watching you or something like that. I would talk to him about this, might help, give it a shot.
Reply:could he be snoring?
Reply:I love my wife, I hold her all night when we sleep. Every once in a blue moon for whatever reason (travel, fell asleep on the couch) she doesn't in the bed with me...





and it is the most glorious restful sleep I've ever had in my life. I forget and remember each time how much more energy i have when I sleep in a bed all by myself.





The only theory I can come up with is that I am a little hypersensitive when I sleep and the slightest movement will bring me out of REM. I don't wake up enough to remember anything, but it jostles me out of the restful slumber.





Even a sleep study (which cost me $1500 out of pocket) said I had normal sleep habits - in the lab, by myself, so who knows...
Reply:Bring over your pillows and blankets, see if that helps. Maybe invest in some new sheets or maybe a pillow top that you put on top of the mattress and under the sheets. Try small things before you invest in anything expensive.