Help with daughter waking during night?

ok heres my problem. my daughter will be 3 in december and she is still waking up during the night. once. and she wants to sleep in our bed. she never sleeps through the night. how can i get my 3 yr old to sleep through the night in her own bed? our queen size bed isnt big enough for her and my husband plus i would like to get a full night sleep for once. and she is still on the bottle because she refuses to drink out of a cup. which i have every kind you can think of. she will only drink juice so i water it down with 6 oz of water and 2 oz juice. wont drink milk, kool aid, nothing. ive tried it all. i think i have tried every trick in the book with everything. anyone with any suggestions please let me know. i'll try anything again. ive done the taking bottle away but she just screams and screams. i cant handle that as i have an 11 month old as well. i end up having to give it to her so she will stop. please help!!!!!

Help with daughter waking during night?
This is hard, I know, but let me share a few things I've learned as a parent.





First, your daughter will continue to scream and scream because it works. She will get what she wants if she screams long enough. The problem is that she will scream longer than you can take it.





It's a hard age to break the bottle habit. It would have been easier if you broke her of the habit when she was a lot younger. In any case, you must break her of the habit now because I let my daughter keep her bottle and pacifier (and then her fingers) and it deformed her teeth and bite.





I saw parents on TV who had a great way of getting rid of the bottles/pacifiers. They told their kid that he was a big boy now and that other babies needed the bottles/pacifiers. They tied them up in a little bag with helium balloons and let the boy take it outside to let the bag go up in the air. He waved good bye to it.





It helps to make drinking from a cup seem like a privilege and a big kid thing.





Then, when the crying begins...don't give in NO MATTER WHAT. That is the hard part but let me tell you, if you give in, she will keep screaming next time. A child is smart enough to stop eventually when all the screaming in the world doesn't get what she wants.





I made it clear that if my child screamed, he/she got nothing. They learned to calm down and use their words to ask nicely, then I gave them what they wanted. Of course, you can't give the bottle, but you can give juice in a nice cup.





Invite another young child, or better several kids, over who uses cups to model this new grown up behavior for your daughter. Think about weaning your 11-month old off soon (as long as your 11-month-old is on solid foods, you can wean the bottle).





Good luck.
Reply:Don't take this the wrong way, but you are enabling your 3 year old. You need to stick to your guns. First, stop the bottle immediately! Even with small amounts of juice, your baby could get bottle rot and lose her baby teeth and even damage her adult teeth. She could also end up having to have braces for an overbite. She is being stubborn about using cups. If all she is given is a cup, then she will eventually give in. She is old enough to understand it if you tell her she can no longer use a bottle because she is not a baby. If she wakes up and gets out of her bed at night, just put her right back in. If she gets up again, do it again and again. She may cry really loud, but will eventually learn. It may keep you, your husband and 11 month old awake for a few nights, but isn't it worth it for her to sleep in her bed after that? Where does your baby sleep? If it sleeps in your bed, you are only creating another difficult child and that must be stopped right away too. Like I said, stick to your guns and use a little tough love. It works.
Reply:First deal with the bottle habit. It will be hard especially since you have an 11 month old. This is what I did.. we went cold turkey I had her throw away her bottles! Done. Never to return, there is no option of going back. Yes, it will be hard, she's 3. It's easier if you start at a younger age.


Next, when she comes to you in the night, your bed is never an option. You return her to her room without talking no snuggles nothing, if she gets up you up her back and sit in her room quietly till she falls asleep again no conversation cuddles, etc. Very robotic feeling and you will lose a lot of sleep but every night you do that you slowly sit yourself closer to the door next your just outside her door and finally back to your bed. When she figures out she's not getting to sleep with you she will stay in her room. My doctor told me to do that and it was hard but it worked. Be strong! Good luck!
Reply:when u take the bottle away keep it away.


it is hard but she will learn.


threaten to take away something she likes,and follow through with it.same thing with the bed problem.


hope i helped.
Reply:Let her go with you to the store and pick out special cups. My little OCD 2 year had the hardest time excepting that milk could come out of somthing other than a bottle. She now has different cups for milk, water, juice, and the ocasional treat of carbonated flavored water. What worked best for us was buying cups with her favorite characters on them and snow globe goblets from the Disney Store. Straw cups are favored over sippies by most toddlers. You should also start offering you 11 month old water in a sippy cup with her meals.


If she still demands the bottle try giving her one with a newborn nipple and just water in it along with the sippy/strw cup. Eventually she'll get frustrated with it's slow flow, and go for the sippy. Try giving her foods that make her thirsty at first like nilla wafers, and the offer her only the straw/sippy with water or milk.





As for ending up in your bed at night, ask her why she doesn't want to sleep in her bed. If she is scared of the dark, get a nightlight, if it's monster get her a special stuffed animal that scares monsters away. She could simply be thirsty, offer her some water out of cup( or maybe a bottle at first) and put her back in her bed. Explain to her that mommy sleeps in mommy's bed and that (insert child's name here) need's to sleep in (insert child's name her) bed. Establish a set bedtime routine and make sure that you are putting her to bed before she gets overtire. Being overtired can cause restless sleeping and nighttime waking.


I would reccomend waiting until the weekend or a non-work night to start this as it won't be a restful experience at first. She should get the hang of it after a week or so if you're consistent. Good Luck.
Reply:okay lets begin Have you tried putting her bed next to your? that could help and is she taking naps in the afternoon? well if she is she needs to stop becasue that is probably one of the reasons she is not sleeping another thing you have to try to get tired so get her to play a lot keep her active through out the day that way at night she will be very sleepy and sleep through the night and stay in her bed also you could try a night light something princess kind that might motivate her





with her sippy cup here are some tips


What should I do if my child refuses the sippy cup?


Babies have all kinds of reasons for rejecting sippy cups. And of course, there's no law saying he ever has to use one. Some babies graduate from breast or bottle straight to a regular cup. If you'd rather your baby learn to use a sippy, though — for convenience, or because you think it'll make a good transition for him — moms have used these tactics successfully:


• Dip the tip of the sippy spout into the milk or juice and then give it to your baby. He may just need a hint!





• Show your baby that the spout is like a nipple (it needs to be sucked on). Try touching the tip of the spout to the roof of his mouth to stimulate his sucking reflex.





• If he drinks from a bottle, give him half of his formula in the bottle. When it's empty, switch to the sippy cup for the second half of the feeding (continue to hold him as for bottle-feeding). Or put a bottle nipple (without the bottle) in his mouth and after he starts sucking, replace it with the sippy spout. Some moms have even had success telling their baby it's time for the "ba-ba" — and simply substituting the sippy for the bottle.





• If your baby sucks on the sippy spout but doesn't get anything, try taking out the valve that controls the flow (if his sippy cup has one of these and it's removable). It'll be messy at first, but once he learns to handle the cup you can put the valve back in and he'll probably be willing to suck harder for his drink. Or make an extra slit in the valve to allow the liquid to flow more easily.





• Work backward. Teach your baby to drink from the sippy without the lid first. Put just a teaspoon or two of liquid in at a time and help him raise the cup to his mouth. After he gets the hang of that (and sees that there's liquid inside the cup), then put the lid on (without the valve, if there is one). Finally, put the valve in and let him take over.





• Offer your baby a straw. Some baby cups come with built-in straws, and some babies find these easier to use than a spout (though others will look at you, clueless). If your baby does get the hang of sucking from a straw, he may then be better able to handle sucking from the spout.





• Switch beverages. Some babies will drink water or juice — but not breast milk or formula — from a sippy. Sometimes it's a matter of association (milk belongs in a bottle or breast). Some moms have had success waiting to introduce the sippy cup until their baby is ready to start drinking whole milk (at age 1).





• Show him how. Get yourself a sippy and let your baby see you drink from it. Or have a sibling drink from a sippy in front of the baby. Sometimes all it takes is a little sucking noise (make it when you give him the cup) to inspire a baby to start sucking. One mom sat down with her cup of water and her baby's sippy cup of water. She drank from her cup, then helped her baby drink from her cup. Then she drank from the sippy and offered it to the baby for his turn — and voila.





• Shop around. There are all kinds of sippy cups, with all kinds of spouts. There are even bottles that transition from a regular bottle to a bottle with handles to a sippy cup with a lid and straw to a regular toddler cup. Sippy cups aren't too expensive, so it's worth letting your baby test-drive several if the one in hand isn't working. (And as he grows to toddlerhood, you might let him pick out a brand-new kind himself, just for fun.)





What not to do


Using a sippy cup may seem like a piece of cake, but there are some pitfalls you'll want to avoid:





• Never let your child take a sippy cup of juice or milk to bed. The sugars can pool in his mouth and cause terrible tooth decay. The same goes for walking around with one in hand, nursing it for hours on end.





• Thoroughly clean the cup (especially the lid and plastic stopper) between uses. Liquid can easily become trapped in the nooks and crannies of a sippy cup and valve, leading to the growth of bacteria and mold. If you can't wash a sippy cup right away, try to at least give it a good rinse. If that's not possible, drain any remaining liquid and take it apart. Periodically check your lids and valves for damage or mold.





• Don't give your baby cows' milk in the sippy until he's a year old. (Formula or breast milk is fine.) Between 8 and 10 months, he can start drinking non-citrus juices, but wait until he's a year old to introduce citrus drinks. Choose pulp-free varieties because the pulp in orange juice and other citrus juices can clog the plastic valve.





• Don't expect the sippy cup to be the magic answer to weaning. For some babies the sippy simply replaces the bottle and presents you with another weaning challenge. Still, many parents find it more acceptable to see their growing child with a sippy than a bottle in hand. And if used properly, a sippy cup can be less damaging to your baby's teeth than a bottle.





• Don't refill the sippy cup with fruit juice or milk throughout the day. If your baby has had his quota of juice or milk, then refill his sippy with water when he's thirsty.





How much juice/milk/water should I give my baby each day in his sippy?


If your baby starts using a sippy cup before he can drink juice or whole milk, simply give him a portion of his breast milk or formula in the sippy cup each day. If he's thirsty between feedings, refill the sippy with water. When your baby starts drinking non-citrus juice (not before 8 months), give him no more than half a cup of juice a day, in addition to his formula or breast milk.





Once your child starts drinking whole milk (at age 1), experts recommend no more than 24 ounces of milk and one cup of juice per day. More than that and you're asking for cavities and a toddler who's too full to eat at mealtime. If your child gets thirsty after he's had his quota of juice and milk, simply fill the sippy with water
Reply:Hi! I was wondering - is she potty trained? It was hard for her when new baby came I am guessing and now the baby has a bottle and you want to take hers away from her.


Use the "big girl" technique and she will give up the bottle and say it firmly. This is your new big girl cup- bottles are for babies! Let her see you throwing bottle in the trash.


IT WILL WORK if you don't have "poor baby body language."


Same with the bed- she is in her big girl bed and baby is in her bed and Mommy and Daddy sleep in their bed. DO NOT ALLOW HER IN YOU BED!


If she cries. sit in a chair by her bed but don't talk to her- or look at her --it is just to let her know you are there.


You will have to put her in her room each time she comes in your bed until she gets it. It is hard but think of how great it will be to get a good nights sleep. It will work. Good Luck
Reply:She only screams because she knows if she does that you'll give in. You have to take it away and keep it away it will be rough at first but eventually she will learn. Take the bottle away and give her the cup, if she doesn't want that than don't give her anything. Once she knows the cup is her only option she'll use it.
Reply:you'll have to deal with it, in a coule days,youll be glad!!! My girl went to the bottle by taking away 1 bottle every few days.I started with midday, then added morning bottles...GONE!


the last to go was ngiht time..then ya gotta throw them away.that way it will force you %26amp; her not to have them..NOW, as far as the sleeping thing...stay in her room with her when she wakes up.tell her daddy said no, she has to stay in her bed..blame it on him!..lol...try that %26amp; gradualy it will work.mY girl , now 5 had the same problem...get this..My hardest thing was the pacifier..we call it gabby...anyways, i couldnt take it away.she LOVED it, sucked 2 , sucked one %26amp; rubbed one on her ear..LOVED 'em...well...we came home one day..dog had chewed them up!!! omg, we were upset.but it helped get her off of it!!...hhmm...got a dog,maybe he could destroy the bottles..hint hint...if they arent there, she'd have to take a cup , wouldnt she?...or someone could


steal them...try those ways..DONT BACK DOWN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:first, figure out what is making her wake up, like if she needs to go to the bathroom or if she gets cold or whatever. if you can't fix that problem (don't give her any thing to drink after 7 or 8, or make sure she's comfortable), then you need to make her understand that she stays in her room, ie at night she doesn't have permission to be in your bed. with the bottle, start by limiting the bottle to twice a day and then a couple weeks later to once a day. the worst thing you can do is get frustated with her, just be patient and loving and understanding without giving in to her fits. Good luck.